In a lot of ways, I would say that I am trying to reinvent myself using Chuck as a model now.
In my case, I don't consider this unhealthy. I think the value of this practice must be determined on case-by-case basis, if you will. I have a really hard time socially. Chuck does, too, but not anywhere near as much as I do. So I am following his lead in terms of finding ways to be involved with people who share my interests, and trying to be less self-critical when things don't work out like I'd hoped.
I think his lack of social anxiety is part of what attracted me to him in the first place.
Still, there's a saying in psychology that every disorder is merely an exaggeration of normal behavior. I think you're on to something, but you've yet to define at what point such behavior becomes "disordered" as opposed to the way people normally seek mates. What makes the difference between infatuation and love?
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Date: 2005-11-02 09:34 pm (UTC)In my case, I don't consider this unhealthy. I think the value of this practice must be determined on case-by-case basis, if you will. I have a really hard time socially. Chuck does, too, but not anywhere near as much as I do. So I am following his lead in terms of finding ways to be involved with people who share my interests, and trying to be less self-critical when things don't work out like I'd hoped.
I think his lack of social anxiety is part of what attracted me to him in the first place.
Still, there's a saying in psychology that every disorder is merely an exaggeration of normal behavior. I think you're on to something, but you've yet to define at what point such behavior becomes "disordered" as opposed to the way people normally seek mates. What makes the difference between infatuation and love?