I would say that "casting your net widely" is in itself a "singleness of focus", just an unusual one. You're focusing on novelty, as it were. Sounds like you've been pretty successful.
Do you have an urgent need to "do something with yourself"? Or even a latent desire? Personally, I *have* been doing something with myself, though it's never been terribly urgent. And never much the same thing, except broadly (reading, meeting people, working, watching movies, learning new things, etc.).
This past summer I went from being a twenty-year veteran Twixter (minus the debt, and minus the living-with-parents) to being a full-time parent of three young kids. It's quite a change. Yet the only really meaningful difference for me is that I have less free time to do my own things.
Given that my previous eight or more hours of free time on weekdays and 40+ waking hours every weekend over two decades wasn't enough for me to get bored even once, I don't see how this is an advantage.
I like my new family, but it doesn't fulfill a specific need for me. It's just the way things are. I still do things that are just for me, just not as many things. I'm neither more nor less happy now than I was before. (I am more *tired* than before, but that's a transient problem.)
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Date: 2005-01-20 07:16 pm (UTC)Do you have an urgent need to "do something with yourself"? Or even a latent desire? Personally, I *have* been doing something with myself, though it's never been terribly urgent. And never much the same thing, except broadly (reading, meeting people, working, watching movies, learning new things, etc.).
This past summer I went from being a twenty-year veteran Twixter (minus the debt, and minus the living-with-parents) to being a full-time parent of three young kids. It's quite a change. Yet the only really meaningful difference for me is that I have less free time to do my own things.
Given that my previous eight or more hours of free time on weekdays and 40+ waking hours every weekend over two decades wasn't enough for me to get bored even once, I don't see how this is an advantage.
I like my new family, but it doesn't fulfill a specific need for me. It's just the way things are. I still do things that are just for me, just not as many things. I'm neither more nor less happy now than I was before. (I am more *tired* than before, but that's a transient problem.)