Ahh. No, I disagree on the inverse version-- just because you have a solid sense of who you are does not necessarily mean that you're not looking to be better. It's not how well you know yourself that leads to those types of infatuations, it's how well you like yourself. Or rather, how much improvement you think you need (since there are a fair number of people who do not like themselves but do not see any need to try to improve themselves).

And, to expand the thought a bit, it's not necessarily even how much you like yourself, it's how much you like your life. I like *me* a great deal, but there are certain pieces of my life that I'm tolerating for the long-term effect and hate immensely in the short-term (namely, running a business with my husband, and anything remotely resembling home remodeling). When those pieces of my life take the front burner, I've been known to be briefly infatuated with someone. In my case it's almost always an "escape" fantasy-- running away with the Object of Infatuation Du Jour includes running away from those hated pieces of life, too.

(You did ask if your original question jived with our observations, which is why I did not assume it was a given.)