I think I'd comprehend this essay better if you defined what "shame" meant to you. If I read it with one eye closed, it reads like you don't feel bad when you realize you have hurt people, but if I read this with the other eye closed (metaphorically speaking), it sort of reminds me of a recent Dr. Nerdlove column on how self-acceptance and the drive to improve are not actually incompatible. Either way, it doesn't feel like you believe your thesis statement, that you feel you need to learn to feel shame more deeply.

Although you are of course the superior mind and I do not get anywhere near your point when I read, due to your intellect being way more developed than mine.