Let me tell you a story in way of example, and ask what you think about it.
The other day, Wyndsung and I were at a party, and at one point a guy told her "Smile!" She froze up and told him not to tell other people to fake happiness. He reacted in exactly the right way. He didn't get defensive, or bent out of shape. He said this was an opportunity to learn, and acted like learning is something he likes to do. She explained he had told her to fake her happiness, as if her real internal state was irrelevant, which is something men do to women because they're window dressing. If he really wanted to get to know her, he should never tell her to fake her pleasure in order to make him comfortable. He thanked her for giving him a perspective he never thought about before.
It never occurred to me that, instead of learning how to interact with people, he should get out his wallet and hand her cash. Is that what you are suggesting?
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The other day, Wyndsung and I were at a party, and at one point a guy told her "Smile!" She froze up and told him not to tell other people to fake happiness. He reacted in exactly the right way. He didn't get defensive, or bent out of shape. He said this was an opportunity to learn, and acted like learning is something he likes to do. She explained he had told her to fake her happiness, as if her real internal state was irrelevant, which is something men do to women because they're window dressing. If he really wanted to get to know her, he should never tell her to fake her pleasure in order to make him comfortable. He thanked her for giving him a perspective he never thought about before.
It never occurred to me that, instead of learning how to interact with people, he should get out his wallet and hand her cash. Is that what you are suggesting?